How to rekindle the flame when donors lose interest.

By Katya Andresen

Dear Floundering:
A family friend (let’s call him Dan) recently told me his daughter called from college to say she’d pierced her nose. She conveyed this news with defiant glee. When Dan said that sounded nice, his daughter sounded disappointed. When she came home for winter break, he picked her up at the airport — wearing a big, fake hoop through his nose. She removed her nose stud that night.